i have been constipated since this morning and i have to go but its to big and too hard and its making my butt hurt. i am so uncomfortable. i drank some mirilax this morning but it didnt help. it is trying to come out but its too big. my husband suggested an enema?? will that make me have the urge to push or will it soften it all up? because i dont want anything that is going to make me want to push with it this hard. i am in tears please help