i cry, sometimes sob, every day. i don't have to be thinking about anything, it just happens. i have major depressive disorder and anxiety w/agoraphobia. i wanted to know if this is unusual because a psychiatrist rolled his eyes at me when i told him how long this has been happening so now i just lie about it to other doctors so they don't think i am being dishonest or exaggerating. i am not, but am uncomfortable saying in this forum how long it has been. so, does anyone have this problem or suggestions for me? thank you.
17 May 2012
Please don't ever feel uncomfortable sharing these kinds of issues on this forum. Firstly in order to get help you must be honest with your doctors. Crying every day is most definitely a sign of untreated major depression. I can relate to it as it happens to me, for absolutely no reason. Its a terrible feeling to be so defenceless and vulnerable and that is why you must seek help. It is not unusual at all. If you are not comfortable with the eye rolling psych seek out another. Are you on and taking your meds, if so, they may need reviewing. This is a great community here so keep sharing/posting and we will be there for you. You are not alone and certainly exhibiting nothing unusual but raw emotion.
With my blessings, Aud
18 May 2012
I cry every day, can't control it, if someone looks or says anything that sets me off, dunno exactly what that might be, tears just start streaming down my face. My hubby is always supportive, but he doesn't know what to do. Neither do I. I have been "sick" since I was 13 and now at 56, nothing has changed except meds. I've been diagnosed with just about every mental illness there is except schizophrenia. I take my meds every day and still cry. This is no way to live
I have gotten my best help and understanding / empathy from my therapist. She listens to me and tries to help me access outside resources to help. She is a lo better than my shrink, I get hours with her and try to make some sense of it all.
That would be my suggestion to you, if you can leave the house.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you to find some relief. Lamictal helps me immensely but we are all special.
Sweet Hippie Laura
18 May 2012
I don't find it surprising that you cry every day. I don't think it's stupid or anything to hide from a doctor. What you think is disproval and judgment from doctors might just be one that's interested and trying to think of how they can help you.
While I didn't have major depression, I cried in my sleep every night and my pillow was soaking wet every morning. I refused to cry in front of my abusive husband. I cried when he wasn't around. You have a good husband-I'm glad you have that. Be honest with your doctor-maybe you need to try to stick with a doctor and give the doctor a chance to know you and care for you.
Good luck and you have my prayers- did you ever have your thyroid checked? Crying like you are is a symptom of thyroid trouble-ask a doctor about that, if it hasn't been done. Thyroid is the most underdiagnosed medical problem in the US.
18 May 2012
Hi,how DARE any doc judges,here IN oz they listen,help and refer help not just pop different meds.system in Usa we hear sux and is expensive.Here we dnt pay c a doc or c pschylgst or psychiatrist for up2 twelve visits,whether u wk or not ,my doc has saved my sanity,i usd2 always cry do at times as i have mild anxiety and i deal with it thru exercise,pilates,nutrition thru my doc and pschlgsts advice2 stay active n positive. I only take valium2 relax me at nite and4 sleep.hope u find gd honest,caring help and ur beta soon x
19 May 2012
Hi, i can see you already have had a lot of great support here, just wanted to comment as well... Like Mazz said, it is completely out of order and unprofessional of your psychiatrist to roll his eyes at you! Bin him and get a new one if at all possible? As Aud says, it is clearly a sign of depression or/and another mental health condition. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and one of my main symptoms is that i am emotionally unstable. So i can start crying unexpectedly and take things to heart very easily/i'm very sensitive. Maybe you also have a personality disorder? Has you doctor or psychiatrist ever considered that you may be suffering from more than depression? I'm not trying to add problems to your life, it is just that having the correct diagnosis makes it much easier to treat. I was misdiagnosed as Bipolar in the past.
Now i know the correct diagnosis for me, i have not only been prescribed the right medications, but i am receiving emotional support and am starting on a course of DBT. Do you have anyone you can confide in, a family member or close friend? As already said, never feel embarrassed to divulge anything here! We won't judge! : )
19 May 2012
I sure hope you consider never going back to that psychologist ever again. For him to roll his eyes at you is very unprofessional for starters, I could go on and on but I'm sure everyone's already commented on his horrible behaviour. Never lie about how you're feeling, especially because one judgemental so-called-psychologist did what he did, that doesn't mean all doctors are like him. I cry almost daily too & there's absolutely nothing wrong with that at all. When I didn't cry I was holding in my emotions and had anger problems because of it. Now that I let my emotions out this way, which is a much healthier way, I have no anger issues anymore. Crying is just another emotion, like smiling when you're happy, should you not smile when you want? There's nothing wrong with you at all. If you feel your depression needs to be dealt with then find a good doctor to help you out with that but never let anyone make you feel you should hide or keep inside your emotions. Take care, Kim.
19 May 2012
wow... thank you to all who responded, i am overwhelmed and crying right now... but it is a good cry. who knew that there were such caring people out there... willing to give their time... understanding... suggestions... sharing their stories and compassion. it will take me some time (because i am a one finger typist... in school i always thought i would marry a rock star and would have no need for typing skills ;)... who could have foreseen the internet revolution, where typing is so important) but i plan on writing back to each and everyone
of you. please be patient, there are days when i don't even pick up my laptop..but my goal is to write you all individually within a week. again, thank you and i wish you all joy and good health. pat the reason i don't use caps is to speed up my typing *un*skills.
20 May 2012
Good crying is always a good thing, and it's okay to cry. I wonder if there isn't something medical going on, possibly within the endocrine system (could be thyroid or pituitary) as well as within the ob/gyn system (other hormones). I would definitely trust your gut and continue to fight for a better quality of life. Please seek out a complete medical work-up from an endocrinologist and your ob/gyn. In the meantime, the fact you have a therapist is so important, keep going, and possibly ask for a referral to a different psychiatrist. Also, if you could start keeping a daily log of time of day, length, your overall mood, etc., you may see a pattern develop.
Hang in there, and know you are not alone.
21 May 2012
I've been living the exact same life for years. Three weeks ago I think I finally nailed the problem down. I've been taking 450 mg of Bupropion a day (generic Wellbutrin) for at least 4 years. It almost killed me. I'm weaning off the medication (under doctor supervision). Please ask your doctor if your depression, constant crying and misery could be due to the 300 mg you're currently taking. Wellbutrin made me crazy. The first two weeks of withdrawal I had massive headaches and became even more depressed... crying if I even tried to speak to anyone. I'm down to 150 mg a day for the next 2 weeks. You'll feel even worse In the beginning but I'm beginning to function again. I have not cried for 4 days. What are your thoughts? I hope this might provide a starting point to consider. God bless you.
22 May 2012
Hi there,I dont cry every day anymore,since starting wellbutrin and lithium,but I do cry alot still.I usually start crying when someone on TV does something sweet or I look at a picture of one of my kids... All I have to do is think about my mother who died in 1981 and the tears start to flow... If someone hurts a child... It breaks my heart and I cry... Bad news of any kind... anyway you get the picture... I have found alot of relief on this site... pleez keep coming back we are here for ya... and if my Dr. rolled his eyes at me... I think I would find another one... Talk therapy is very helpful... it has helped me alot... :) Tina from Texas
22 May 2012
Hello briads. Things do come together. Takes time for some, more than others. I have my days and if I allow myself, can shed a tear. Over the simplest, silliest of what other folks might think just that. Silly and simple. Way back on my avater/profile I ended my bio with, tomorrow, if not then, another tomorrow things will and most always do, become better. Thats my pledge.
22 May 2012
I can't add anymore than what others have said, except to let you know that you DO have a BIG support system now. so now you don't have to dump on your wonderful hubby, you can dump on us, and maybe slowly, you will start to get out a bit more maybe just for a very short walk and home. It has been proven that exercise is as helpful for depression as much as medication. Also talk therapy. If you had a psychologist that you liked, and you start to exercise, just a small bit, you will make baby steps, but you will be making steps. And get rid of that psychiatrist, and report him to the AMA!! Dump here honey, we are here for you!
23 May 2012
theres nothing wrong with crying, I have major depression, along with reflex sympathic dystrophy, I cry all the time, its hard when doctors are there to help you and they disregaed your feelings. I told my Prymary doctor that I felt like they didn't believe me and how much pain i'm in so I would just not say anything anymore. He told me that he did believe me and had no dought, I'm lucky I have a great doctor, you should think about finding a new Dr. that you can trust and will help you. by lying they can't help you. He's doesn't seem like a good doctor. I hope this helps you alittle. crying is good for you, it releases stress. I would like to be your friend if you'd like.
27 Aug 2013
There is nothing wrong with crying and as so many have said in their responses, I don't think I would want to go to a doctor who rolled his eyes when I cried. I did have a doctor who was not sympathetic and I felt shamed by him. You are having an emotional release when you cry. A normal response to a crying patient or friend or anyone! would be concern, sympathy, care. Some people just aren't tuned that way. I don't know why. I do know that for me, the unsympathetic uncaring kind of person usually challenges my comfort and trust in that person and I choose to find people and professionals who are of like mind. I hope you find someone who cares for you without shaming you. You deserve respect and care. All beings do!
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