Alcohol Dependence - My husband is an alcoholic, we have been together for almost 9years, I try to?

4 Sep 2009

Abug,
I would suggest seeing if he is willing to go to an AA group. They are most helpful; and if he does, you should try going to an Ala-non group. I think you could both benefit. Other than this, it is all pretty much up to your husband wanting to get help and there really isn't anything you can to make him want to get help. I wish you luck.

10 Sep 2009

its very hard to help someone that isnt putting in as much effort as the other. the only thing you really honestly can do is to stay by his side like u have been for 9 years and remind him every day how much you love and care for him. how you do not want to lose him. how u dont want to lose him to passing away of gettting older, and especially not to passing away (god forbid) from a rude overpowering addiction. love is really the only thing that can help someone in a situation like this. personally i think that strangers in classes or counseling would only make him tense and more eager to relax in his swallows of sorrow. love him like you have. thats the greatest thing you can do for him until he learns to do for himself.